Friendship

Hi friends,

Today i have my leadership class in the morning, we have to presentate a topic that is called plagiarism. After we do our presentation, there is a guy ask my opinion
"what if your friend suspect you stealing his/her idea, how we handle it"

Actually this question remind me to something that had happend in the past. When there is a friend of mine (but i can't tell her name lah..) suspect me stealing her idea.
Actually i never steal her idea... we just make a same look of sth, but after that, i decided to change it and never ever use that design... (ever!). But that thing created misunderstanding situation and make a distance in our relationship.

I've tried so many times to explain this problem to her. But she never give me a chance to talk 'eye to eye'.
I never blame her because of that. I know that she also have her own big problem at that time, and i think, it wouldn't be so wise if i force her. So i let her go, learn from it, and go on with our own life.

Honestly, it was hard for me to let her go (for a couple of week) i feel rejected for so many times by her. So i decided to read a great book, that Peter gave to me.

" The Joys and Pain of Growing up" by Peter lau
(my beloved STHC Trainer)

that book give me streght and light my day. It says that rejection is a part of our life, everbody will experience it. But the important things is how deal and handle it. Peter says in his book that
"If you reject yourself, you want be able to believe in yourself and that will stunt your progress in life"

That word really empowering me to get out from my that situation, and unconfident.
It also makes me looks more clearly about what a word,
its better to become a wise friend rather than a 'good' friend.

A 'good' friend might talk a good things in front,but bad things behind. Then leave you. But

A wise friend will tell you the truth (even it might be painful), help you to get out from your problem and growth together.

So, answering the previous question (on the top of the page)
First thing first.
1. Listen! why your friend suspect you. After she/he finish...
2. Then explain the truth about the problem, say sorry if you're wrong.
3. Tell your friend how you feel about it.
4. Ask your friend his/her expectation for the future, then tell yours...
5. Say sorry and forgive each other lah...

Hope this blog help you guys... ^ ^

Warmly regards,
-ed-


The Highlight:
- Be A wise friend is much better than A 'Good' friend.
- Never be afraid to admit your mistake and do apologize,say "sorry"
- Sometimes, Honesty might be painful, but it will rid out your problem and brings you happiness.
- Peter's book is one of the best book for you to read! recommended! =)